Sandra Harmon, Dating, Sex, and Relationship coach is this month's Wild WE of the month. In addition to being a love coach, Sandra is an award-winning author. Read more about Sandra and her work at www.sandraharmon.com.

Tell us how you became a love coach. What did you do before you became a coach?

Before I became love coach, I had a long and successful career as a journalist, Emmy Award winning TV writer/producer, film maker and best selling author.
I began in TV by writing a popular daily TV talk show, and then wrote comedy shows and pilots, as well as television films and also books.

My first novel, was "A Girl Like Me", a slightly fictionalized version of my life. I also wrote and produced the NBC movie, "Fast Friends", which was based on my experiences writing a daytime television talk show.

I then wrote the book, "Elvis and Me", with Priscilla Presley, which became a huge best-seller and also a four hour miniseries. I also produced another film, "Promises to Keep" which starred Claire Bloom and Robert Mitchum.

During these years, I believed myself to be a "liberated" woman. I had a short marriage when I was in my twenties, and then many relationships with interesting and celebrated men, although none had led to a successful, long term, committed relationship.

One evening I went to a relationship seminar in Los Angeles. As I began to listen to the speaker, Dr. Pat Allen, I felt as if I had landed at a school for Stepford Wives and wanted to run out the door. But the more I heard, the more I realized that "women's lib", although great for me in the outside world, did not work in the area of love and romance. It had left me careening between being a strong, aggressive "male" who demanded equality and respect from a man, and a warm, loving "female" who wanted that same man to be generous protective and caring. According to Dr. Allen, I was a "Narcissist," and unless I changed, I would end up alone. This was painful for me to acknowledge, even to myself, but I knew I was hearing the truth.

I devoted most of the next year to learning more about this concept and eventually began working on a book which showed women how to find and attract the right man, begin a healthy sexual relationship and get married, or at least engaged, by the end of the first year. This was "Getting To I Do".

Because of the success of "Getting To I Do", I was asked to write the sequel, a manual for men and women who want to be in a marriage that works - physically, mentally and emotionally. This was "Staying Married and Loving It"

After each book was published, I was asked to appear on television, on radio and in newspaper and magazine interviews. Wherever I went, people wanted answers to their love dating, sex and relationship problems, and I was able to help them. I decided to become a personal coach..

Through my books, programs, seminars and one-on-one coaching, I have helped thousands of people to find and keep a loving and committed romantic relationship or marriage. It's not difficult. You just have to learn a few of the rules.

What services do you offer as a coach? Who is your typical client? What are the most common issues your clients are seeking help with? Do you work with more men or women? Typical age of clients?

As a personal Love, Dating, Sex and Relationship Coach, I help both men and women, but mostly women, reach their romantic goals. I do that by coaching my clients in the exact techniques they can use to find and/or keep a loving and intimate relationship.

The problem I deal with most is with successful business women who have trouble knowing how to act "feminine" in a relationship, or don't know if they want to "act" feminine at all. The truth is, in order to be with a "masculine" guy, you have to learn how to act in a "feminine" way, in order to have a loving and successful relationship, while NEVER being used and abused by a man. I like to say, "A man gives, then a woman receives and THEN gives back, but never more than she gets".
I coach my clients on how to find the person who is most compatible with them, if that is what they are looking for, and show them how to begin a new relationship while eliminating old, painful patterns, i.e. how to go from chemistry to commitment (and beyond) without self-destructing. I also help people who are already in a relationship or marriage, solve those problems so the relationship can be saved - or shelved. And I am there every day and every step of the way, with phone calls and emails, and encouragement.

I have specific programs such as; Finding Love through On-Line Dating, For Singles - How To Find a Keep a Lasting Relationship, Marriage and Relationship Coaching, and How to Have Good Sex. Or, everything can be combined with everything else. It’s about what my clients want and need.

I do offer a FREE twenty minute telephone coaching session, during which time I will help you with you with any questions or issues you have romantically, and you can also ask me any questions you might have about me or about coaching in general.
If you want a FREE coaching session, my website is sandraharmon.com and you can sign up there. I also offer a FREE 10 day Ecourse called, How To Attract The Right Man!, which you can sign up for on my web site which is www.sandraharmon.com. I can also be reached at Sandra@sandraharmon.com.

You've received a lot of recognition for your writing. What inspired you to write your books?

I have always been inspired to write books by my need to generate income. Then I pick the subject, which must be something I care about very much. It is usually my way of teaching, helping, entertaining or seeking justice. Those things keep me going for the long and arduous task of writing a book. But I have been very successful, and have had two best sellers. That also is inspiration because if you know you have done it before, you believe you can do it again. At least that is how I see it.

What advice would you give to the aspiring writers among the Wild WE?

l. Don't be afraid to make mistakes and learn from your mistakes.
2. Remember, it's not the writing, it's the rewriting
3. Learn how to accept criticism and rejection because you will be criticized and rejected along the way. Take the good from the criticisms and grow.
4. Have faith in your own voice.
5. Figure out a way to write AND make a living.

Who are your mentors and inspirations in your career?

A woman named Deanne Barkley who was the head writer of the first show at which I worked. I was a secretary and she was my boss. She knew I wanted to be a writer and she gave me the chance and praise and approval I never received elsewhere and I went from being a secretary to a writer in the course of a year. She is still my best friend, many years later.

If you could give one piece of love advice to our Wild WE readers this month, what would it be?

Don't get fooled by the belief that you can be both male and female when you are in a relationship with a man. At the office you can act like a guy if you need to, because you have to compete for top dollar. But when you are with a boyfriend or husband, and he is a "masculine" one, don't turn into a guy yourself or the relationship will not work. Women who are strong and aggressive and successful or want to be, think it's okay to be strong and aggressive in a relationship with a man, but they are wrong. It is not. Masculine men are not attracted to masculine women. They are attracted to feminine women. Remember, it is better to be "loved" than to be "right". So decide whether you want to be the "male" or the "female" in a relationship - you can be either, but not both - and then act accordingly.

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Many people live in clutter, emotionally eat themselves into overweight, live in debt, hate their jobs and otherwise live unhappy lives, unable and seemingly unwilling to change. Why? What do these have in common? What is the core issue?

Fear, or rather an absence of love.

Fear, and not hate, is the "dark side" or opposite/absence of love, the way darkness is the opposite/absence of light.

Whether your self image is controlled by unhealthy or uncontrolled overweight or fanatic perfection, both stem from fear. In the first, food is used to comfort upset emotions and to retreat into - a true friend that never lets you down. In the latter (and sometimes the former), control over the body supplants a loss of control elsewhere in life, eventually taking over that life.

Clutter is almost always fear-based - fear of not having something and needing it, fear of getting rid of something important, fear of leaving oneself open to new experiences (which can't come in because your house - and by extension your life - is already full) and fear of being alone with oneself and one's thoughts (clutter requires so much of our energy to deal with and work around, it can serve as a sort of mental static to keep us too busy to think about important things).

Debt is another symptom of fear - people get into debt for many fear-based reasons (like needing stuff to make themselves feel better, or for fear of not keeping up with the Jones' and being socially outcast). Another part to this equation is that many people will not get rid of their access to credit (cut up cards, etc) because there is always that "what if an emergency happens and we don't have cash on hand to pay for it?" which is made moot by the fact that most of their credit cards are
maxed out anyway. Debt is also a symptom of the fear of doing without, even when carried to extremes. The fear of going without and the feelings of "being without" fancy clothes or expensive meals out is no less than the fear and experience of going without basic clothing and food, although the reality is different.

Working at a job you hate is nothing but fear - fear of not having enough, fear of quitting and not being able to find other work (or finding it and being stuck with something even worse), fear of not being to keep up with your "stuff habit" or your debt, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of relying on yourself, fear of doing things differently or out-of-the-box (running your own business, running off to Mexico, etc), fear of letting the family down, fear of "wasting" your education, fear of what other will say, think, fear that your mom/dad/sister/evil art teacher
were right and so on.

Fear is the basis for pretty much all human suffering, not counting natural disasters and other acts of God. And the opposite of fear is love. Love creates an ecosphere of calm and plenty, because you know there is enough (if only just enough) and so feel no need to "get mine before someone else does." Nor do you feel the need to hoard (clutter) or gather in more than you can afford (debt) to assure yourself of plenty. In a world of love, all are accepted and loved for their own personal strengths and forgiven their faults, therefore negating the need for drowning in the
comfort of stuff and food (debt and overweight), or worrying about what others will think if you quit your job to become a Mexican portrait painter (toxic job). And on and on.

Learn to live with love, for yourself and for others, even when they don't meet your standards (even the rich and awful deserve your love, for they serve their purpose, too). Creating a world of love is up to each of us. We cannot wait to see if others take the first step. They are waiting for us.

(c) Soni Pitts

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Soni Pitts is the Chief Visionary Butt-Kicker of SoniPitts.Com. She specializes in helping others reclaim "soul proprietorship" in their lives and to begin living the life their Creator always intended for them.

She is the author of the free e-book "50 Ways To Reach Your Goals" and over 100 self-help and inspirational articles, as well as other products and resources designed to facilitate this process of personal growth and spiritual development.

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With the many job sites out there, as web professionals, one probably has one, two or several resumes online from which prospective employers can peruse. It's getting to be a challenge to stand out from the crowd. Why not take it one step further and turn your resume or CV into a website.

Find Webspace

The first step is of course, finding webspace. There are many free web hosts. The downside is that most of them have advertising on the pages. It's a good starting place since most of them allow you to build and publish the pages on the spot.

However, if you are more experienced you could opt for no ads web-hosting and a URL. The good news is that web-hosting rates are coming down. They are even as low as $5.00 US a month. Some web-hosts have What-You-See-Is What-You-Get (WYSIWYG) builders to help beginners establish their web presence.

Domain names (also known as URLs or web addresses) prices are also coming down as well. Some web hosts can handle the registration as well.

Back to the resume

Take a look at the resume and see how many visible sections there are. Those sections can be your pages. A sample listing of sections can go as follows:
1. Experience
2. Education
3. Activities
4. Contact information

This is already four sections that can turn into 4 webpages. As the experience grows, the website can branch out to be more pages. Also feel free to provide external hyperlinks(links that are not a part of your website.) This will enable people to visit the external website without closing or navigating away from your website. One can link to employers, educational institutions, etc. so that the resume can have an interactive feel.

Don't forget the main page or the homepage, the first thing that visitors see when they arrive on your website. Think about a headline that will grab someone's attention that in a few words summarizes the website. It can be your name or your function. It's also a good idea on the homepage to have a paragraph summarizing who you are and what you do. Another recommendation is to have a full-page version of the resume as well. This gives people a choice if they want to view a section or the full version.

Its is also a good idea, if you have the webspace to have multiple versions of your resume accessible by linking to them on your site. .DOC and .PDF formats are widely known followed by .RTF.

Lastly, as we all know, a resume is always growing and changing; such as a website and the nature of the Internet. Always take the time to review and enhance your website. It's important that your online resume should show growth and evolve to meet new challenges and opportunities.

Stuck in a beauty quandary? Can't pull yourself out of your fashion rut? Feeling like a Glamour "don't"? E-mail your beauty and fashion questions to our expert beauty consultant, Charlotte
Maddox, at ask@thewildwe.com. If we publish your question, we will offer you a free text ad in our newsletter. All questions will be published anonymously.

Loving the skin you're in!

February and Valentine's Day reminds us to get in touch with those we love and also with ourselves.

My friend, Laurie, and I finally celebrated her February birthday after postponing lunch several times for "crises." Laurie's the epitome of a Wild WE but right now she's in a "place." Sitting across the table, I listened to Laurie talk about work, her husband, her teen-aged daughter and baby son but I saw the signs … no time for herself. Her natural blonde hair was long overdue for shaping. Her usually flawless skin had blemishes and there were dark circles under her eyes. She’d uncharacteristically gained a lot of weight.

"Okay," I (Dr. Charlotte) said, "what are you doing for stress?" Easy for me recommend working out or getting away or whatever … but isn't it true that if you take a little precious time for yourself to recharge, you'll benefit and so will those around you?

There's only one you - so like the Oil of Olay's logo suggests, "love the skin you're in™!"

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You can write great copy for your business with practice and guidance. The Communication Corner, a monthly column from freelance copywriter, Dina Giolitto of Wordfeeder.com, provides answers to all your writing questions. Got a pressing copywriting question? Send it to Dina at ask@thewildwe.com. If we publish your question, we will offer you a free text ad in our newsletter. All questions will be published anonymously.

Article marketers, a question:

Do you REALLY REALLY want people to "find you" on the web... or are you content to spend hours fixing up your website just to have Mom tell you how nice it looks?

If the answer was yes, you want to be found, then you need to master Article Marketing Efficiency. You need to PUSH your content out there so it gets seen by the right people.

After you write an article, what do you do with it? Share it with your forum buddies? Tack it up in your blog and forget about it?

Well, this is what you *should* be doing with your article

Immediate Article Marketing Action:

1. Post the article in your favorite online network (niche appropriate makes the most sense).

2. Send your article in to EzineArticles.com for top billing on the search engines.

3. Post the article on the smaller article sites hosted by your trusted associates; for instance, Angela Smith's ArticlesOn.com or Thom Reece's MarketingArticleLibrary.com

Delayed Article Marketing Action:

4. Add the article to your blog. Tag it categorically. Send out the ping notifications with Pingomatic, Technorati, Pingoat and whomever else you like to ping.

5. Include the article as part of a free ebook that you send to your private audience (only if the shoe fits of course).

6. If you have no ebook in the works, feature the article in your ezine (assuming it speaks to your primary audience).

7. If time or budget allows, take the article and submit it to ALL the major article directories.

You may or may not wish to do this depending on whether this article is just a random one that you rattled off, or if it's part of a larger campaign effort (for example, Web Content Awareness Day was my last campaign and it featured many targeted articles).

I hope that after reading this article you're equipped with an understanding of how to leverage your content for maximum outreaching potential. This is the way that you must do it if you want to emerge at the forefront of your industry! I have confidence in you. Now go market that article.

Copyright 2006 Dina Giolitto. All rights reserved.

Dina drives mass traffic with article marketing. Follow along at http://Wordfeeder.com during Article Marketing March - we're covering everything from basic to advanced article marketing in our blog, ezine and online network of article marketers. Get on the list - sign up at the bottom of the Wordfeeder.com homepage right now.

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